I just watched the video and like sure, whatever, I get the point but a few things:
- It erases the racialized antiblack misogyny (misogynoir) that black women face every single day within our community which manifests itself in many black men openly shaming and shitting on black women. Anger and frustration about that is posited as the “irrational” position of a “reverse racist”
- It oversimplifies frustrations about white supremacy which elevate white female bodies while conversely denigrating those of black women, and which leads to many black men flaunting and treating white women (and light skinned mixed women) far better than they do black women.
- It draws false equivalencies between the discrimination that particular white woman faced in that instance and the institutional nature of racism making it easy for viewers to blandly state that reverse racism exists when it doesn’t.
I am mixed myself and of course don’t see there as being anything wrong with interracial relationships, but these bland inaccurate oversimplifications of issues which are far more complex than “oh my god that black girl is reverse racist against white girls in interracial relationships” are just so boring and irritating.
I saw that. And I didn’t feel the least bit sorry for that white girl.
That said, I appreciated what all the black people said in her defense.
Like you pointed out, this COMPLETELY ignores the issue of misogynoir and how:
- Black men date white women so their children have lighter skin so they don’t go through the crap they went through for being dark
- How black men date white women/light-skinned black women/Latinas because they think of them as prettier
- Also how black men marry white women to have their beautiful biracial children, thus accessorizing and objectifying their own offspring
- How black women have serious self-worth issues because of the white supremacist beauty standard
I mean case in point
my dad married my mom because she was light-skinned
as soon as he was done with her he went off and married a white woman
I looked at him, and I saw myself.
Seriously talk all your shit about “authenticity” and “real talent” but do you honestly think your cloying overdone White Guy music “legends” could deliver even a nominally passable performance in 6 inch heels while recalling hours’ worth of choreography in super form-fitting clothes while still having to focus on preserving their hair and makeup AND having to be fit enough to at least appear unfazed by the demands of the performance NO you don’t. The fact of the matter is that the spectacle aspect of American pop music is set phenomenally lower for men than women and your criticism is such a snore
Jennifer Morrison for Bello Magazine, November 2013