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Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.

This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.

I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place.

I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.

As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am.

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  • Me: *has 5 video games I started to play but never beat*
  • Me: *plays a game I've beaten 4 times*

bronze-wool:

The Road to El Dorado concept art by Scott Wills


artschoolglasses:

French Rococo - Jean-Honore Fragonard




fineapplepizza:

boys seem better in theory


prostitutepuke:

If you ask a cis person why they hate trans people, you’ll get responses like “I don’t think they’re natural” or “they’re immoral and corrupting our children” or “they’re evil and should be killed”

If you ask a trans person why they hate cis people, you’ll get responses like “I’ve been attacked on the street 3 times this month” or “I can’t leave my house anymore” or “my friends were raped and murdered”

See how that works?


Drift compatibility exists between two people. Act as one.